The everyday holiday

Going through difficult times in the last few years experiencing a divorce due to infidelity…it has changed my world!! Where I’m used to picking which family are we going to visit this holiday it’s now coordinating custody schedules and spending half my holidays by my self. Thanksgiving would normally be one of my favorite holidays (minus the glorification of capitalism and colonialism) because I always loved spending quality time with my family and making delicious food.

This year was a little different…my first year without my kids on thanksgiving. I have a philosophy to always look for the positive in every situation so instead of being in my feels by missing my kids this year (due to 50/50 custody and sharing our sweet kids) I took it upon myself to make it happy. This year was very different…I spent the week working and catching up editing beautiful wedding galleries. On Thursday, Thanksgiving itself, my boyfriend…yes I said boyfriend! I know that I shared quite the betrayal and tragedy but I have learned that life is funny in showing you how it can get better….well anyhow we made our own little small thanksgiving just the two of us. My boyfriend’s name is Jordan and we’ve been dating for a little over a year. We both LOVE to cook so we spent our time cooking together and making memories. We shared a lunch and watched stranger things (catching up on all the episodes before I watch the new season). After a little quality time together we ventured over to Jordan’s best friends house to watch the Cowboys (guys what in the world….I watch football now?) and the Chiefs play. We brought some pie over and made some memories with friends. As soon as the game was over we hurried back to watch MORE stranger things. We love it.

What I’ve learned throughout experiencing holidays alone is that you can be very productive, look for the positives and embrace every positive glimmer you can grasp when going through holidays alone or experiencing the holidays differently than you have in the past. Life may look different, feel different but it doesn’t mean it has to feel badly to you. I always say happiness is a choice and you can choose to embrace the positives, learn and grow or you can not do any of that.

Either way, whatever brings you peace I hope you have some love and happiness in any way you can find it this holiday season.

Love,

Erin